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Creating a Safety Plan

The most important first step for a woman in a violent situation is to build a Safety Plan to protect herself from her abuser! The following steps are important to the development of an effective Safety Plan.

    • Keep a list of important telephone numbers handy for you and your children:
      a. Police – 911
      b. Touching Heart
      c. Friends and relatives whom you trust
      d. Your Minister
      e. Your primary physician
    • Identify a relative, friend or neighbor you can confide in about your situation. Ask them to call the police if they hear sounds of conflict or suspicious noises coming from your home or if they try to reach you after hearing these noises and cannot get a response.
    • Think about places you can go if you leave your home.
    • Create a “Crisis Stash”. Think about leaving extra money, car keys, clothes and copies of important papers with someone you trust – a close friend, relative or neighbor.
    • Keep telephone change handy. You may need to flee the house and find a public telephone to call for help. You may not be able to readily find telephone change or may not have access to a telephone credit card.
    • Open a savings account. If you are forced to flee your home, a separate savings account, even a very small one, could provide you with at least enough funds to survive for a short while as you stabilize your situation.
    • Plan and rehearse an escape route with a trusted person You need to think about and rehearse how you will escape the violence if you must. In the midst of the situation you may need to act very quickly and decisively in order to escape further injury or save your life.
    • Change the locks, install steel/metal doors, a security system, smoke detectors and an outside lighting system.
    • Tell a neighbor that your partner no longer lives with you and ask them to call the police if he/she is observed near your home or children.
    • Provide your child’s caregivers with critical information including the names of all persons who have permission to pick your children up. If you have a personal protection order that names your children, give their caretakers and their schools a copy of that order.
    • Tell a trusted co-worker or your boss about your situation. Ask them to call the police if your batterer shows up demanding to see you. Try to make a plan at your workplace to have your calls screened.
    • Select different stores, banks and other businesses from those you habitually used during the time you lived with your partner.
    • Go to Court and get a Protective Order! Keep a copy with you at all times, give copies to the police, to your children’s caregivers, to their schools and to your own supervisor at your workplace.
    • Find someone to call when you feel despondent, afraid or sad. These are the times when you may convince yourself that it would be better to return to your batterer. Talk to your minister or someone from your church. Find some workshops and support groups to attend so that you can gain support and better understand your situation.
    • Create your “Safety Escape Check List”. Compile a list of items you will need to take with you if you leave. Among these important items are the following

Items to take checklist:

    • Identification, including one with a picture
    • Birth certificates for you and your children
    • Social Security Cards
    • School and medical records
    • Money, bankbooks, credit cards
    • Keys – house/car/office
    • Driver’s license and registration
    • Medications
    • Change of clothes for you and your children
    • Welfare identification
    • Passport(s), green card(s), work permits
    • Divorce papers
    • Lease/rental agreements
    • Mortgage information
    • Pets
    • Insurance papers
    • Address book, Palm pilots
    • Pictures, jewelry, items of sentimental value
    • Children’s favorite toys, books, blankets, etc.
    • Personal Protection Order

Important Social Security Information – Effective November 4, 1998, the Social Security Administration (SSA) changed its existing policy of assigning new Social Security numbers (SSN) to victims of harassment, abuse or life endangerment, including victims of domestic violence, to make it easier to obtain new SSNs. The change in policy was designed to make it easier for these individuals to elude their abusers and reduce the risk of further violence. A full explanation of the new policy and how victims may use it is available from Touching Heart.

Internet Safety – The internet can serve as both a friend and a negative source of information for victims of domestic violence. If an abuser can access your computer, they can find out what web sites you have visited, what documents you have edited, what e-mails you have sent or received, etc. There are various applications now available to remove information from your computer which may become available to your batterer. You may be wiser to use a friend’s computer, a computer at work or a computer at the library instead of your home computer. Touching Heart has developed a set of procedures to assist clients in protecting their internet access.

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